Friday, February 23, 2007

Worry

Today's Quotes
We worry about what a child will be tomorrow, yet we forget that he is someone today. Stacia Tauscher

Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow; it only robs today of its strength. A. J. Cronin

To know yet to think that one does not know is best; Not to know yet to think that one knows will lead to difficulty.
Lao-Tzu

Isn't it amazing how we grasp onto our views as the right ones? How we think we know what's best not just for us but for other people as well? Isn't it amazing how we assume we've got it all figured out? How we think our views on how to live life are the Right ones? To the point we find ourselves concerned when others don't follow our Guaranteed Path?

This much you think you know,
you think you know what's best for my child...

Well, I've listened to your words. I can sense your certainties and your deeply felt beliefs - you've made your views very clear. You are concerned because you see us walking a different path, a path unknown to you, a path that you, with your narrow imagination, can only imagine leading to gloom and doom...

This much I know - I don't need your worries. Your concerns are of no help - would you really want me bathing in the festering stream of your worries and concerns?

The negative visions you have for my son's future are of no help. Your worrying about him does not help him in any way. In fact, it simply reveals your low expectation of him and for him; it merely shows that you don't trust his capabilities. And in what way can that be helpful?

I know you only want to be of help. But in your willingness to be of benefit please don't go round projecting your own problems.

"In a broad sense, a problem exists when an individual becomes aware of a significant difference between what actually is and what is desired."

Please be aware of the difference between what you desire for someone and what they desire for themselves and consider the possibility that those you so desperately want to help out might actually be very happy with the way things are!

And, if someone feels they have a problem they'd like help with:

“The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem.” Theodore Rubin

"Every problem has a gift for you in its hands." Richard Bach

Today's Links
HE Rights e-petition
HE in England: DfES Research
Turning Off My Brain 17 y.o. aspie talks about his sleeping difficulties

On The News
Home schooling numbers uncertain
Should home schooling be more closely monitored?

1 comment:

Estee Klar-Wolfond said...

Excellent post. Thank you.