A parent who really desires to understand his child does not look at him through the screen of an ideal. It is only when one feels no love for the child that one imposes upon him an ideal, for then one's ambitions are trying to fulfil themselves in him, wanting him to become this or that. If one loves, not the ideal, but the child, then there is a possibility of helping him to understand himself as he is. Krishnamurti
"Children who are labelled with Asperger's Syndrome do not need more structure and direction in their lives; they need considerably less. They need, primarily, to be freed from being seen as products or being objectified and defined by a list of subjective observations. They need parents who are unquestioningly on their side, not to impose their own or so-called experts' agendas on their children in the name of loving assistance, but simply to assist their children in carrying forward their own intrinsically motivated lives in process. To do this requires a willingness to ask radical questions and to let go of many entrenched assumptions about education, psychology and parenting, to name but a few. It requires going against mainstream and often allegedly expert opinion. It is not an easy path. It is not a neglectful path. It is a moral path."
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